Life Update

It’s crazy to think that the last time I intentionally sat down and wrote anything was over 6 months ago, when at one point in time, I used to blog every month.  There always seems to be something more pressing or more important than taking time to process life, especially when you can’t always seem to understand what God is doing in the midst of the chaos.

The last time I wrote was on our one-year wedding anniversary, just a month before Dillon and I would begin our season of living apart.  Thus far in our relationship, that decision was one of the most challenging choices we have ever made.  There was no timeline or clear sense of instruction to guide us.  We struggled with how our friends and family would view our decision and wondered ourselves if what we were doing was the best move for our family.  At times, we still struggle with being confident in choosing such a big move after only living in Canada together for one year.  It has been one difficult ride.


The past few months I have been set on “survival” mode, doing whatever was needed to make sure we made it through this season.  We called, texted, sent photos, and drove back and forth over the border to ensure every wedding, birthday, and holiday was celebrated together.  And that became our rhythm.  Perpetual exhaustion and constant travel.  I always felt like I had to be strong, save face, and make sure that no one knew how taxing the process was becoming, and at the same time I needed to convince myself that I was fine and that we could endure the season, however long it may be.

Then, just when I thought I couldn’t handle another moment of this season, we got the phone call we had been waiting and praying for.  We had our interview.  After a 7 hour drive to Montreal (from Niagara) and a 15-minute interview, we were given permission by the government to continue on with our lives.  What a ridiculous process, but one we are grateful we could experience.  

This bring us to today.  

I feel that God is stirring something big in my soul and causing me to rethink the way we spend out time, resources and energy.  We're looking to craft a life we think God would be proud of and culminate experiences and relationships over material possessions.  Still discerning what this means, but excited and ready for new challenges.

Some goals I’ve/we’ve set are:

  1. Blog (at least) once a month
  2. Live on one income
  3. Join a small group
  4. Invite (at least) 5 new people over
  5. Live with less

So that’s a little life update on the Siders.  We’re still here.  Still truckin’ forward.  Still trying to do the best we can with what we’ve been given, and never settling for a life that is too comfortable.

Thanks to all of you who have stayed with us during this crazy ride and we welcome others to be a part of the #adventuresofdillandash


Ashley Sider